Acceptance...

Recently i came across a lot of Indians who have settled abroad (basically America, Australia and Singapore). Most of them have been born and brought up in India and then went abroad for either higher education, work or both and have managed to successfully live there for almost 2-6 years.

Obviously, these are the people who basically like it there and have adjusted well. They came with a dream and have fulfilled it.Most of them have a desire to go back to their native land someday but are clueless when. I respect these people because its no easy task to have a flourishing career in a foreign land. I have very closely interacted with many such people at different times in my life.

I have observed a very paradoxical behaviour among most of them. Though, some are still non-immigrants, that said, they are not first citizens of a respective nation they are working/studying in. Therefore, logically lack a sense of belongingess but the irony is they show and portray such a strong sense of belongingness towards the foreign country that its impossible to know their national status.

Its strange, how human being starts owning a place in his mind, where he has lived for few years. Any remark against their (current) country is taken personally. For a person like me, who has her feet planted in India and abroad most of the time, have definitely experienced the pros and cons of staying in India and abroad. There are a hundred things which are better here and maybe less but still, a lot of things much better in India.

My question to these people is- why get defensive??? Why not just accept the fact that life is good in India too but maybe not how they wish it to be. Just because their so called 'second home' gave them everything they ever desired, doesn't necessarily make 'not so good' things 'good' abroad. Liking certain things abroad which are not so 'likable' is plain acceptance not choice.

I am not biased about India or any other country but the only point that i am trying to make is be vocal about your true feelings and be yourself in accepting what you are and not what you think you are!!